Staff Reports
As Thanksgiving approaches, families will gather around tables to share food, laughter, and—let’s be honest—some heated discussions. Alexandria Hoff recently shed light on an intriguing trend that might just become the subject of those holiday debates: young women going “boy sober.” This concept, which is gaining momentum among young women, centers on the idea of consciously choosing to be without a boyfriend, challenging traditional notions of relationships in a digital age dominated by social media platforms like TikTok and Instagram.
In the past, having a boyfriend was often seen as a badge of honor, especially during the season of cozying up by the fireplace or showing off a date at holiday gatherings. However, the “boy sober” trend is flipping that script. It seems that young women today are finding the idea of saying, “I have a boyfriend,” less appealing and more “meh.” Instead, they are choosing to prioritize their independence and personal growth over the societal expectation of dating someone just for the sake of it. No longer does having a significant other guarantee applause from friends; instead, many are saying, “Thanks, but no thanks,” to the pressures of dating.
This trend also brings to mind the old college phrase, “we’re just talking.” Back in the day, many students would enter casual relationships without labeling them as serious. Now, young women are recognizing that the pressure to date, whether it leads to a charming holiday romance or not, is often more trouble than it’s worth. So, while some might be out there engaging in the lighthearted “cuffing” season, others are consciously opting out, embracing a single lifestyle that allows them to listen to what they truly want.
Of course, everywhere trends swirl in rushes and ebbs, and this one is no different. Statistics show that marriage rates for college-educated women have remained relatively stable since the 1930s. While many might be proclaiming the end of boyfriends as we know it, history tells us there’s a good chance that in the long run, companionship still reigns supreme. So, for those who think this new trend marks the end of traditional relationships—fear not! After all, holiday dinners will always feature tales of love, romance, and yes, the occasional “boyfriend drama.”
As families gather this Thanksgiving, they might find themselves debating more than just turkey versus ham. With the polarization of views on relationships, assimilation, and changing gender norms on the horizon, hosts may need to prepare for some lively discussions. While some may champion the boy sober movement, others might uphold the value of companionship. Either way, the very essence of these conversations underscores a truth: women today are diversifying their choices and living authentically.
With stories like these making waves in our culture, it’s essential to remember the strength and determination of women during this transformative time. Whether it sparks deep conversations at the dinner table or just a casual chat over cranberry sauce, the choices women make today may very well shape the future of dating and relationships. So, as dinner rolls are passed and stories abound, perhaps the real appetizer this Thanksgiving will be a healthy helping of open dialogue about changing norms and personal choices. Happy Thanksgiving!
